Well adjusted, successful adults often are the product of children who have been lovingly educated and tasked with skills that can aid them as they reach maturity. A few strategies to help your children become adults that can handle responsibility and manage a full and enriching life are:
1. Teach them that tasks and goals are positive rather than negative things to accomplish in life.
2. Offer them a skill set to handle setting and accomplishing such goals.
3. Practice intentional quiet and focused time where your child can work on an assigned chore/task without any interruption so they learn how to put 100% of their attention into their work.
4. Introduce them to the concept of time beyond just being able to tell it. Have them set their own short term and long term goals and work with them on learning to judge their own emotional speed at which they feel comfortable in working on tasks. Maybe they can handle big projects with ease, maybe they need to break large project into baby steps to avoid undue stress or inertia. Work with them on developing the ability to learn how they best perform.
5. Work with your child as the individual they are to help them envision a goal and bring it to fruition. Help them learn to make lists and timelines for both short-term and long-term goals. Be sure to allow them the flexibility to make changes to goals and plans since as adults they will certainly have to learn how to adjust to the curve balls thrown at them in both their personal and professional lives.
- Set aside blocks of time where you will not be disturbed in order to complete tasks in one sitting.
- Plan for the present and the future. If it can be completed quickly and right away complete it now. Otherwise break a project down into smaller parts to complete.
- Make the most of your time no matter where you are.
“There were a few things that we attempted to teach them over the years, and in observing them now, it seems as if some of those lessons were learned and have helped them as adults.”